recap

It is the end of another year- a time to pat the cat and reflect on one's life. Some big changes may be afoot anytime soon so I think a rundown of what we have been through is in order-save any new readers from scaling back through the blog.

I'll try to keep it snappy:

It all started in-

November 2006- This was before the blog. I was 33. The blog, according to my first entry in April 2007 was to vent my angst. But yes, the journey started here. We started the very first insems with our friend and Donor Dad (DD). Then I got pregnant, like, immediately and life was ring-a-ring-a-rosy. (It was seriously as though I had a pocket full of posies.)

January 2007- Then I had a miscarriage at ten weeks. It was unspeakably shit-awful. KT180 and I looked after each other so much and our relationship strengthened a fuckload. All three of us would-be-parents were determined to try again asap.

March 2007- We started trying again. (The hospital had told us to wait three months: which is a crock.)

April 2007- This blog was born. Borne of the frustration of trying to determine when I ovulated. God, we spent a lot of money on those wee sticks.

September 2007 – Finally, we got me up the duff again. Not much blogging went on.

October 2007 – Miscarriage number two. This time we were warned by a heartbreaking dating scan at eight weeks that showed a six week foetus and no heartbeat. A couple days later –as planned- I had the miscarriage at home in the middle of the night with KT to soothe me and drug me with stocked up nurofens. My mother had also given us some endone she keeps on hand for such occasions but I didn’t take it in the end. It was the right thing not to go to hospital. Hospital really sucked the first time except I really needed the morphine. This time I was brave as all get out. And very angry.

December 2007 – We started trying again, agreeing I got to have one more go at being pregnant before we switched biological mothers. I did kinesiology and homeopathy to “break the cycle of miscarriage”. I was assured I would be great guns next time. I felt really positive. We were glad to see the back end of 2007.

March 2008- Pregnancy number three.

March 2008-Miscarriage number three at about 5 weeks. Steee-riiike!

April 2008- KT’s parents sent us away for Easter and we discovered the therapeutic benefits of screen-printing. I did most of my clothes.

April 2008- Trying to get investigations underway for me. Took effing forever and came up with no results.

June 2008- By the time thirteen weeks of just sitting around on our arses waiting for an appointment and a result from the miscarriage clinic had passed, and still no answers, we started to think we should start trying to make a baby in KT before one of us died. So we started, and I chilled out for the first time in ages.

July 2008- We did a couple of months of insems with KT until our Donor Dad started acting all weird and distant and took some precious biological time out to think things over. I turned 35.

August 2008- I started fertility treatment with acupuncture and Chinese medicine and the most unbelievably strict elimination anti-candida diet.

October 2008- KT turned 34.

November 2008- Our Donor Dad quit. He changed his mind about being a parent. (Which we thought was just fucken fantastic.)

December 2008-Without further ado we started asking gay men we knew if they wanted to be dads and co-parents. We then started interviewing the ones who were interested. It was the weirdest time ever. We met the lads and found them to be perfect. The most exciting thing about them was that they were enthusiastic about parenting. We were glad to see the back of 2008.

December 2008- KT stopped ovulating altogether from shock and grief.

January 2009- We locked in the lads, M & J. We started hanging out with them and sorting out a lot of business.

February 2009- KT started fertility acupuncture. I stopped fertility acupuncture. KT started the crazy diet. I continued to be her personal chef.

June 2009- We found out that KT is a cystic fibrosis carrier and possibly a polycystic ovary carrier.

July 2009- We found out that M is not a CF carrier. We started inseminating KT. I turned 36.

Aug-Dec- Jizzarama and many negative preg tests. Not sure when or if KT ovulates.

December 2009- We paid to have KT’s fallopian tubes, ovaries and uterus looked at. They were very good. Her ovaries are both polycystic which is a bit of a problem with ovulating but not dreadful. We were able to see the egg that was about to drop on the scan. We were able to predict when it would drop. Possibly worth the five hundred bucks, who can say?

December 2009- We are glad to see the back of 2009, but not in a horrid, hateful way. We're hopeful and happy and hip. And looking forward to the year of the Tiger.

Merry Christmas/New year people. More soon.